5 Uncomfortable Actions That Will Save Your Mental Health in 2023.

I love uncomfortable conversations.

Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog. If you are new here, welcome to one of the best sites on WordPress. In this house, we have interesting conversations, some are conventional, some are not. Either way, there is always something to munch here.

Before we proceed, I would like to say happy new year to everyone! Bloggers and non-bloggers. I hope 2023 is a better year than 2022.

Now kicking off my blog this year is one of my favourite topics. Mental health. The pointers discussed here will mainly relate to depression and anxiety. Mental health is a broad spectrum with other issues such as trauma, PTSD etc.  On that note, I would like to reiterate that I am not a psychologist or licensed therapist. Everything I write about is from personal experience in managing my own mental health and conducting my own research. What’s interesting is that there are few trained professionals writing on mental health and on top of that there are very few black men writing on mental health, qualified or not.

 As they say, be the change you want to see in the world. Starting in 2021 I decided I will be writing on wellness and never looked back.

 2021 was the turning point in my wellness journey when I accessed therapy through my university’s student wellness program. That was a turning point because therapy is expensive and costs an arm and leg. However, there was a time when I did not have access to therapy, and it got me thinking about some options people could explore while saving up for it or just as a plan if therapy is an unreachable solution. However, I would like to say the ideal situation is to access it especially if you have dire mental health problems. Nonetheless, here are some ways to manage your mental health without therapy.


You will be surprised at how many people are willing to listen to your problems especially people around you. I wrote a blog last year about how you can have conversations about mental health with your parents. No matter how old you are, you are not too grown to have a conversation with your parents. Start at home. These are people who have known you for your whole life and if you have healthy relations, your parents should be a starting point.

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Besides parents, having a sibling you can disclose your mental health struggles to is another solution. Outside of siblings, cousins, or any other close extended family member could work too. Reaching out is important in your mental health journey because you create a support system around you. A safety net to fall back on when things go south so talking to someone at home is a great way to manage your health.


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This is particularly geared towards men. A lot of men in online spaces complain about women not providing them safe spaces to open up which begs the question what’s wrong with opening up to other men? If this makes you uncomfortable as a man then good. First, it’s a sign that you need to make changes to your circle of friends. Truth be told a lot of people do not make smart choices when it comes to friendships and this is not exclusive to men only. Quality friendships should provide space for vulnerability and intentionally building quality friendships helps your mental health a lot.

On the other hand, if opening up to your friends makes you uncomfortable it could be a sign that you need to get comfortable with opening up. Managing your mental health needs a lot of personal accountability. You cannot receive the support you need without speaking up and having support from your friends is a great way to manage your mental health because you can always get help where possible.


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I might be projecting here but a considerable number of us spend a lot of time on social media outside normal activities like school or work. More than ever, it is important to curate your online experience. A lot of people underestimate the impact of words or images we feed on online. We think oh well it’s just social media and it’s not real when in actual fact we subconsciously carry those things into real life outside social media.

My philosophy is that if I must consume content let it be content that leaves me smiling than frowning. This is because there is now a trend from certain content creators to be provocative in the quest to get attention online and that is usually at the expense of many people’s mental health. A lot of people will say you should stomach such content and not create an echo chamber for yourself, but this well-meaning advice is usually at the expense of your mental health. Curate your online experience to things that will have a positive impact on your mental health. Unfollowing is uncomfortable but do it anyway.


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People roll their eyes at this but the mental health benefits are huge. I wish there was actual research backing this up but it is what it is.

 All I know is that romanticizing your life helps a lot because it saved me from one of my worst depressive episodes in 2021. I started watching sunsets, taking evening walks, working from coffee shops which I regret a lot because the amount of money I spent on hot chocolate is a bit embarrassing. If you decide to romanticize your life make sure everything is in moderation but by all means do it.

 Play music in the morning, create playlists for every activity you do, go to coffee shops, visit museums, art galleries, write poetry, listen to podcasts, try gardening, try drawing, try painting etc. Create hobbies outside your everyday activities and you will start loving life again.

Romanticizing your life especially if you are struggling with depression will help you realize there is more to life than despair. The key is to start small, step by step and eventually you will start loving life again. It will feel uncomfortable at first but once you are deep in it you will absolutely love it.


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Oops I bet you did not see that one coming! I am going against the grain here, but the truth is as a society we have been sold the idea that a couple of bottles every weekend is equal to happiness. Or that taking a “few sips” of wine after work is “self-care”. I know a lot of people would disagree with me including trained psychologists but in my opinion for people with mental health problems alcohol becomes an easy escape. It is a very slippery slope. If you know for sure that you struggle with depression or anxiety, then I would stay away from anything that can become an addiction even if it’s temporary. Seeking alternatives like the ones that I mentioned under “ Romanticize Your Life” would work better.

Also no one seems to mention that the amount of money people spend on alcohol annually could be directed to at least booking one or two sessions with a therapist. This is pocket watching of course but like the title of this blog post, everything discussed today was supposed to be uncomfortable.

Uncomfortable is good, uncomfortable brings change.

That’s it for today folks! I have more blogs on wellness planned for the year and I am excited to share my thoughts with you guys.

Until next time, take care and goodbye!


6 thoughts on “5 Uncomfortable Actions That Will Save Your Mental Health in 2023.

    1. Hi, thanks for coming here! Excited you joined us, followed your blog as well. I just started my sobriety journey last year in July. When I gather on thoughts on this topic I will talk about it. I wasn’t an alcoholic or heavy drinker so my story won’t be that dramatic haha but I will talk about it when I gather my thoughts. Thanks for passing by!


  1. You already know about my attempt to stay off the socials, lol. It’s day 5, we’ll see how well I do. But I will also romanticise my life. It’s shocking how expensive hot chocolate and coffee is!! I was out the other day and it hit me that I am better off making hot chocolate at home😅 I did not expect #5 but I am glad we are starting to have a discussion about how much of our socialization and existence is centred around alcohol. Looking forward to more wellness content ❤️

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